Certified Sexuality Educator
AASECT Certified | BA² | ANTE UP! Certified
Professional Sexuality Educator since 2003
Workshops Offered
These workshops can be presented on Zoom or in person within 90 miles of Simi Valley, California. I do all my work on a Sliding Scale to fit any budget. Workshops are 60-120 minutes depending on your needs.
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Asexuality and Aromanticism 101
In a world that centers sexual and romantic relationships above all others, to exist as an Asexual or Aromantic person is to exist outside the current framework of sexuality.
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In this workshop we will discuss Asexuality and Aromanticism as Orientations and as Identity terms. We'll touch on the history of these communities and explore the expansive language of differentiated attractions, microlabels, attitudes about sex and romance, Intersectional forms of oppression and erasure, and introduce a variety of resources.
Affirming Asexuality
First presented at the GLMA 2023 Annual Conference, this workshop is designed for Medical and Mental Health professionals and would be perfect for your group practice or professional SIG (Special Interest Group).
Description:
Asexuality is a sexual orientation and identity that is growing in public awareness. With this growth comes the need for culturally competent providers who recognize and affirm Asexuality and understand the nuances of how Asexual people experience sexuality and relationships. In this session we will introduce language used by these communities to communicate their experiences, explore the research into the health and wellness of those who identify on the Asexual spectrum, and break down the ways that Compulsory Sexuality impacts how Asexual people are perceived and how they perceive themselves before highlighting resources and affirming practices to bridge these gaps in clinical support.
Adult Product Workshop
Learn about a variety of toys, lubes, accessories, and how to identify the materials and ingredients that can help or hurt your sexual adventures. I use gender neutral body terminology and offer insights for solo use as well as partnered play. This event is for anyone 18+ of any gender who wishes to learn and have fun.
Re-Defining Intimacy:
What is Too Close for Comfort?
Intimacy has regularly been conflated with sex and romance, but this association can also obscure the deep and valuable ways that platonic intimacy can enhance our lives.
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In this workshop we will re-define intimacy as Closeness and Connection and examine a differentiated look at Emotional Intimacy, Intellectual Intimacy, Aesthetic Intimacy, Social Intimacy, Sensual/Affectionate Intimacy, and Spiritual/Cultural Intimacy. We will discuss how Gender and Racialization has influenced how we access various forms of intimacy and how Asexuality, Aromanticism, and Non-Monogamy are challenging social "rules" around how we connect to those around us.
Demystifying Limerence
and Romantic Love
In Dr Dorothy Tennov's 1979 book "Love and Limerence" Tennov takes a scientific approach to bring 6 years of research interviewing thousands of subjects on their lived experiences of Romantic Love. Not only did she identify key elements of romantic love, but she coined the term Limerence to describe the specific stages of falling into romantic love and the common outcomes that come from reciprocation or rejection. Most fascinating though, is how frequently she identified non-limerent individuals who had never experienced Limerence and what their perceptions of romantic love may look like.
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In this workshop we will discuss Tennov's work, the biology of romantic love and heartbreak through the work of Dr Helen Fischer, and how the Aromantic community has taken agency of non-limerence.
The Anatomy of Pleasure
While sex education in school usually focuses on reproductive function of the genitals, little attention is given to sexual pleasure. This workshop explores the anatomy of the genitals and the whole body in the context of sexual pleasure, making space for Intersex, Trans, Neurodivergent, and Disabled bodies. Moving beyond the five basic senses we will explore a multitude of sensory experiences and include non-sexual pleasure.
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We will discuss terminology, libido, arousal, desire, partnered sex, solo sex, and introduce some toys and enhancement products that can assist pleasure.