Aubri has presented workshops on college campuses as well as through Zoom. These are some of the workshops currently available. Please contact Aubri at email@example.com with any questions or to discuss collaborating on a customized workshop.
Disrupting Compulsory Sexuality:
An Asexual Perspective
In a world that centers sexual and romantic relationships above all others, to exist as an Asexual or Aromantic person is to exist outside the current framework of sexuality. In order to bring visibility and awareness to the millions of Asexual and Aromantic people around the world we must first disrupt the forces of Compulsory Sexuality and deconstruct the very nature of attraction and intimacy.
In this workshop we will discuss the challenges faced by Asexual and Aromantic people and how to begin to build affirming spaces using language from within the Asexual and Aromantic community so that we can all be the locus of change that disrupts Compulsory Sexuality. This includes a comprehensive definition of Asexuality and Aromanticism, an overview of differentiated attractions, examples of oppression against these communities, and some first steps towards inclusivity in community spaces and organizations.
The "A" is for:
Asexual, Aromantic, and Agender
The term Asexual has been used as a Sexual Orientation since at least the 1970's, yet Asexual individuals still struggle to be seen as part of the LGBTQ+ communities. In this workshop we will explore the history of the Asexual, Aromantic, and Agender communities, discuss how these identities add important perspective to conversations around orientation and gender, and go through a more expansive look at the variety of microlabels that help Ace, Aro, and Agender individuals to communicate their needs and boundaries and positionality within the rainbow. We will address issues of Gatekeeping, Labeling, Racialization, Intersectionality, and how to bring more affirming support for new and expanding identity language in Queer spaces.
Is it Romantic?
A Look at Romance, Love, and Aromanticism
What is Romance? What is Romantic Attraction? How do we differentiate between what cultures codify as romance and the internal experience of "falling in love."
In this workshop we will explore some of the classic tropes of romance that come out of Western Eurocentric literature and Hollywood magic in the context of the biological and psychological experiences of love, bonding, and attachment. We will discuss what it can look like to exist in a culture that prioritizes romantic/sexual relationships when one does not experience romantic and/or sexual attraction and how to re-envision relationships that uplift platonic forms of love and bonding.
Where's the Steering Wheel?
Attraction, Desire, and Asexuality
Low Desire, Low Libido, Sexual Dysfunction, Desire Discrepancies, HSDD, FSIAD. There are many ways that Western Psychology has pathologized and attempted to "fix" those who have been labeled as not meeting the expected "normal" level of sexual desire.
In this workshop we will discuss how sexual desire is measured and defined and what "normal" even means. We'll examine the sexual response cycle, spontaneous vs responsive desire, the dual control model of sexual desire, and how sexual orientation acts as a steering wheel to give directionality to desire. Within this context we will look directly at Asexuality and how we can make space for those who don't experience sexual attraction and what that means for Asexual people who do or don't have Desire and how to avoid Asexual Conversion Therapy.
What is Too Close for Comfort?
Intimacy has regularly been conflated with sex and romance, but this association can also obscure the deep and valuable ways that platonic intimacy can enhance our lives.
In this workshop we will re-define intimacy as Closeness and Connection and examine a differentiated look at Emotional Intimacy, Intellectual Intimacy, Aesthetic Intimacy, Social Intimacy, Sensual/Affectionate Intimacy, and Spiritual/Cultural Intimacy. We will discuss how Gender and Racialization has influenced how we access various forms of intimacy and how Asexuality, Aromanticism, and Non-Monogamy are challenging social "rules" around how we connect to those around us.
The Romeo and Juliet Effect:
De-Mystifying Limerence and Romantic Love
In Dr Dorothy Tennov's 1979 book "Love and Limerence" Tennov takes a scientific approach to bring 6 years of research interviewing thousands of subjects on their lived experiences of Romantic Love. Not only did she identify key elements of romantic love, but she coined the term Limerence to describe the specific stages of falling into romantic love and the common outcomes that come from reciprocation or rejection. Most fascinating though, is how frequently she identified non-limerent individuals who had never experienced Limerence and what their perceptions of romantic love may look like.
In this workshop we will discuss Tennov's work in context of Romeo and Juliet, the biology of romantic love and heartbreak through the work of Dr Helen Fischer, and how the Aromantic community has taken agency of non-limerence.
Pick Your Pleasure:
Exploring Toys, Lubes, and More
Adult Toy Parties have been a fun and informative way for people to learn about anatomy, arousal, pleasure, and sexual exploration for decades. I bring the fun of these parties into this workshop without the pressure of sales. Learn about the variety of toys, lubes, accessories, and how to identify the materials and ingredients that can help or hurt your sexual adventures. This workshop is best done in person so participants can get the full experience of turning on the toys, tasting the flavored lubricants, and asking questions in a comfortable environment.