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Certified Sexuality Educator
AASECT Certified | BA² | ANTE UP! Certified
Professional Sexuality Educator since 2003
Virtual Workshops Offered
2 hour Zoom Workshops offered monthly!
Open to individuals and professionals.
Recorded and available for 30 days to those who register.
Pay what you can - suggested $15-$35
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Host one of these workshops for your private organization:
$150-$300 flat rate - pay what you can (up to 30 attendees, no recording) or 50% of ticket sales.​
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Host me as a Guest Lecturer, Panel Participant, or for a casual Q & A session:
$0-$150 pay what you can.
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Please fill out the form at the bottom of the page to request information on a workshop for your organization, or join my monthly Newsletter to keep up to date on my work!
Asexuality and Aromanticism 101
This 60 minute interactive presentation introduces Asexuality and Aromanticism as orientations and identity terms, touching on why they're considered spectrums. We’ll look at what it means for an Asexual person to be Favorable, Indifferent, Averse, or Repulsed toward personally engaging in sexual activity, discuss relationship options for Aromantic individuals, and share resources for continued learning and community connection.
This workshop is designed to introduce these concepts and set you and your organization up with important resources. If you are looking for a comprehensive deep dive, please check out my 6 hour training that comes with 6 AASECT CEs titled Asexuality and Aromanticism with Aubri Lancaster.
Re-Defining Intimacy:
What is Too Close for Comfort?
Intimacy has regularly been conflated with sex and romance, but this association can also obscure the deep and valuable ways that platonic intimacy can enhance our lives.
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In this workshop we will re-define intimacy as Closeness and Connection and examine a differentiated look at Emotional Intimacy, Intellectual Intimacy, Aesthetic Intimacy, Social Intimacy, Sensual/Affectionate Intimacy, and Spiritual/Cultural Intimacy. We will discuss how Gender and Racialization has influenced how we access various forms of intimacy and how Asexuality, Aromanticism, and Non-Monogamy are challenging social "rules" around how we connect to those around us.
Demystifying Limerence
and Romantic Love
In this workshop we will dive into the term Limerence which was coined by Dr Dorothy Tennov to describe a specific state related to Romantic Love and Romantic Attraction.
Limerence is the intense need to have feelings of love reciprocated by a specific person. Characterized by Euphoria (dopamine and norepinephrine and serotonin dumps) when you think they love you back and intense heartache if you think they might not. Coupled with intrusive thoughts of the person where you can't get them out of your head and all thoughts lead you back to thinking of them. Their good qualities are magnified, and bad qualities are minimized and excused and ignored.
We'll discuss the characteristics, progression, and outcomes of Limerence to expand your language and understanding of the mechanisms that drive this experience. Most interesting to me as an Educator focusing on Asexuality and Aromanticism is how this term was in part inspired by Tennov's discovery of people who DON'T experience Limerence, some of whom might identify as Aromantic today.
The Anatomy of Pleasure
What is Pleasure beyond a sexual context? How do you engage with your senses beyond the basic 5? Join me to explore the ways we connect to the world around us as we build a Pleasure Menu that is inclusive of Asexuality, Neurodiversity, and Disability. We will include sexual pleasure, but it will not be centered in this workshop.
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We will spend time learning how to recognize when we are sensitive to sensory input and when we might have low or no registration. Ever gotten lost in a project and suddenly realized you were ravenous? Let's talk Interoception, Exteroception, and Proprioception! Step away from what you have been told you SHOULD enjoy and step into your own body to find what feels truly satisfying.
Polyaffectionate:
Navigating Platonic Inclusive
Non-Monogamy
Where do Platonic relationships fit in non-monogamous dynamics? How can we create relationship structures that affirm Asexuality, Aromanticism, and the Single at Heart? What systemic barriers may make these relationships harder to envision or embody?
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Join us for a workshop that reimagines relationship models, exploring how people are crafting connections and living arrangements that honor all partners without diminishing Platonic ties. You'll gain insights into non-monogamy and a number of resources to process the emotional impact, understand the nuances of boundaries/agreements/rules, and engage in interactive discussion to get your questions answered. This workshop is designed for individuals, partners, and clinicians alike! Let’s stop saying ‘just friends’ and start valuing Platonic bonds as deeply meaningful connections!
Solo Sex: Let's Talk About It
So much of Sex Education is provided in the context of interpersonal sex, but Solo Sex can be fully embodied and satisfying. This Ace-inclusive workshop covers Desire, Pleasure, Fantasy, Arousal (including Arousal Non-concordance), plus Trans- and Intersex-inclusive Genital Anatomy. I'll introduce some adult products that can enrich solo experiences and we'll end with solo Aftercare! Join me to disrupt shame and judgment about solo sex and talk frankly about how to explore indulging in sexual solitude.
Desire Discrepancy through an Asexual Lens
with Aubri Lancaster & Molly Adler
One of the most common challenges that couples bring to therapy is desire discrepancy. You probably have a lot of experience with this challenge and an array of tools and therapeutic techniques to support these couples in nurturing desire and arousal. But what do you do if one of your clients is Asexual? What if nurturing desire and arousal is not actually affirming for your clients? Join Aubri Lancaster and Molly Adler to discuss assessment techniques, DSM criteria, the influence of dominant cultural narratives, biases, and making space for affirming relationship models and practices.
This training will be recorded. If you don't want your voice to be recorded, you can always use the chat during the event. Only the speaker and slides will be visually recorded.
Are you hoping to just watch the recording? While some of this training is definitely experiential, we will be recording and you'll have access to watch for 90 days after the event. CE credit is available for asynchronous attendance.
AASECT CE info:
Core Knowledge Areas: A, B, C, D, E, F, G, I, M, O
Sex Therapy Training Areas: B, C, D, F
Sexuality Counselor Training Areas: B, D